Performing through Pain – A Blogger’s Journey from a Blogger’s Perspective!

I mostly keep to myself as far as personal opinions are concerned but when I am stretched too far I cannot help but express it in my own special way!I love and respect my relationships and cherish them as I feel that I get them in a lifetime but when I am taken for granted,I cannot help but showcase my pain in my own special way!It is now a way for society to constantly belittle people based on their appearance,body type,profession,looks,behaviour and talents and it is time we put a stop to this malicious practice once and for all.Being a Blogger and that too the first one in my family and friends,I have had my fair share of discrimination and callous remarks.I wish to share my 2 cents with everyone and pray that people get a fair chance to prove themselves without any kind of direct or indirect criticism and even if they do not,they fight it out with a vengeance!

Being a Blogger I get invitations from various avenues to write for them on sensitive topics.The tops I love,I blog about them based on a food blogger’s perspective.The invitation to write the post was given by IndiBlogger as they were hosting a Contest by Mobiistar called Enjoy More!

“Mobiistar, a Vietnamese smartphone brand was founded by Mr. Carl Ngo in 2009 with a vision to ‘Enjoy More’ by bringing uncompromised user experience. Mobiistar established itself as a leading brand in Vietnam and recently expanded to South East Asia and GCC countries. The mission of Mobiistar is to expand the horizons of mobile technology adoption by providing affordable and uncompromised user experience to consumers.The Contest required me to post a favourite Selfie of mine and write about “the emotions I felt, the smells in the air, the people we shared it with, etc., etc.””

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Recently I had an experience which was unforgettable,eye opening and from which I learnt about life’s important lessons,primarily one – not everyone is trustworthy and may befool you with smooth talks.There may be many other reasons as to why people behave with us as they do.But everything is in our attitude – how we handle situations and how we react!

Any experience in our life has the following stages :

1.The Inception – The events leading up to it!

2.The Happening – The experience itself – positive or negative you decide!

3.The Reaction – How you felt immediately,how you absorbed it and what was your attitude in dealing with this.

4.The Feedback – How many people who were associated with you were affected by the experience,how you dealt with it and what was the outcome?

5.The Aftermath – The most important stage – how effectively we came out of the situation and how we progressed to elevate ourselves in all ways in life!

Coming back to my experience,let me tell you that I never consider any experience as negative!I was a die hard pessimist and negative thinker at one part of life,but I am wiser now!Apart from positive experiences from which we derive happiness,we should use negative experiences to learn,implement and not make the same mistake again or encourage effects leading to similar situations!I treated this as a learning experience!

1.THE INCEPTION

We as a family (me,my husband and my mother) were called by a family we regarded as close!There were emotions of sibling relationships,friendships,unity and fun and after some deliberation,we decided to accept their invitation.They showed a great deal of happiness hearing about our proposed visit and promised us a great experience replete with a trip together to a beautiful paradise on earth which was quite close to their place.

Motivated by their reaction,we started avid preparation and referred to them for booking our tickets.All this while they showed us a behaviour of how happy they really were of welcoming us and we got bolder in our hopes thinking that it would be a beautiful way to meet people after nearly a decade of gap.They used to appreciate my work as a blogger and that made me glad that of the few people in my family who acknowledged my efforts,these were genuine people and I should be appreciative of them at all costs.

However a week before we three were to travel,all communication stopped,there was minimal interaction and though we did not notice it much,there was a small question at the back of my head – why did they stop interacting?What happened and why the sudden silence?I have to admit here that I am blessed with a great 6th sense but unfortunately my clear reasoning was clouded with the promises and the apparent thought of a great vacation and I dismissed it as a slight over expectation on my part and that I should have more faith!

Here is where we all got hit!

A day before the journey we got a message from them informing us of their address and that we could look up taxis at the point of entry and if we tell them the particular address,they would make sure we reached our destination!

Hmmm?The first blow!

Positive side – Lesson learnt : Never expect anything from anybody!

Thank you guys for this experience!

2.THE HAPPENING

We completed our journey and landed there and as advised,we dutifully went to their place and what a welcome we got!No sign of happiness,no enthusiasm and a complete opposite of how we were treated on phone!We blinked twice and looked at each other if this was the same set of humans who had virtually welcomed us,but treat us as if they were least expecting us?

The second blow!

Positive side – Lesson learnt : Everything is great by communicating through technology!It is coming face to face that bridges are built!

Thank you guys for this experience!

3.THE REACTION

As I was the person behind this journey,I was berated for the same by the people I trusted the most!It was not anger,but a despair that this endeavour was a flop and we should not have come here in the first place.I apologised sincerely and told them that if we had not taken this stance,we would have chosen to trust them as much as before and not known this side of the coin!This seemed to console them somewhat,though I knew the wound was far deeper!

Positive side – Lesson learnt : Humans are humanly responsible for the inhumanities between related humans in this humanitarian world!

Thank you guys for this experience!

4.THE FEEDBACK

After being subjected to intense criticism regarding my figure (I was overweight then,I will not lie),treatment fit to shame the best of us and with even more misery from my loved ones,I was ready to run out of that place ASAP.My blogging was sidelined,and as per what I could sense there was envy and jealousy with my blogging,my success in that field and attributing everything to the external flaws I had!

I sometimes felt the interference of other family members in influencing this party for misbehaving with us!But what about their conscience,their loyalty and our honesty?Gone to the dogs?

The final blow!

The feedback I gave to myself – “Amrita,you are not perfect and got a foolproof view on the more intricate aspects of life!Keep it up and keep rocking”!

I got feedback from my loved ones as well – Please let us not trust people who speak to us in sugar coated words!The words might have lethal poison inside!

Positive side – Lesson learnt : Keep motivating yourself,no matter how people treat you!They are no judge of how your journey is!

Thank you guys for this experience!

5.THE AFTERMATH

I became more empowered,more confident and paramount – more self dependent!I realised that people live for a motive and socialise for another!I improved myself for my better functioning in ways more than one and I thanked the Almighty God for blessing me for reasons more than one!

We three went to the lovely place of paradise and it was beautifully cold there!We were given elaborate,warm rugs and I was ruminating about the current situation of how we were treated,when I took this selfie!I was quite depressed with how the trip turned out,but we three were awesomely happy to be on our own and free without anyone to question us,comment us or restrict us on our actions and thoughts!

I saw my eyes in the phone camera and instantly told myself – You are what you are,you will be what you make yourself.No one has the power to exploit you and when you have learnt your lesson once,you will not make the mistake again!You will rise and improve yourself for only yourself and of course,with yourself!There is no competition with others and you compete with yourself!

Positive side – Lesson learnt : Believe yourself the most!

Thank you guys for this experience!

Am I not correct folks?

Another picture taken of the frosty window pane..

NOTE : The Featured Image is set on the basis of the beautiful climbing blue flowers on the big Banana Leaves!The flowers and Banana Leaves have a motive for each other but still survive,whereas we human beings only have a motive and do not prefer in the “Living and Let Live” philosophy!It also represents the struggles taken by the climbing flowers to survive – exactly as how we humans survive fake and farce people in life by climbing higher than what we think of ourselves!